Fort Worth Matchmakers Show How to Nicely Turn Down a Guy

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Every woman has been there before. We’ve all struggled in knowing how to turn down a guy we’re not into. After all, each guy is different, as is each situation. So how do you go about nicely rejecting a guy you’re just not into?

As Fort Worth matchmakers with 30 years of experience in the Texas dating industry, we have the answers and strategies you need. We’ve compiled a few ways to nicely get your point across – and also a few harsh ways (for those hardheaded guys who just don’t seem to take a hint).

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Get ready and read on as our dating experts here at Dallas & Fort Worth Singles Dating Service share the secrets to rejecting a guy nicely.

1. Be honest with him.

It doesn’t matter how you know him or met him, if you’re not into him, you have to be open and honest with him. If he asks you out and you’re not feeling him, don’t drag it out. Let him know that you’re not interested in him. And don’t fall into the trap of thinking you owe him an explanation of why you’re not feeling him. You don’t have to explain your reasons to anyone.

2. Play the friend card.

If you’re not feeling this guy, let him know you don’t want anything romantic with him but that you can be friends. If he doesn’t want to be friends, then send him on his merry way.

3. Be assertive.

Okay, this is for those situations where you’ve already turned him down but he’s asked you out again. If you told him once and he’s coming back at you again, it’s time to get firm with him. Get assertive in telling him that you’re not attracted to him and that you won’t go out with him. If he gives you a hard time again, let him know you’re not happy with his pursuit and outright and tell him you don’t like his behavior. Let him know that you’re not going to put up with it.

4. Avoid, avoid, avoid.

If you know he’s going to be somewhere, don’t go. The whole point here is to avoid running into him to avoid that awkwardness – and to nix his opportunity to ask you out again. If he asks you if you’re avoiding him, be honest. Let him know that you’ve tried several times to tell him that you’re not interested and that he just hasn’t gotten your very blatant point.

5. Rude it up a notch.

If the guy is still persistent after your last firm rejection, it’s time to get a little harsher. That’s right, it’s time to get a little rude. Be firm, be rude, do whatever you have to do to get this guy to realize you’re 100% serious about not going out with him.

Tell him you’re starting to get angry over his incessant behaviors and that you’re sick of his unwanted attention and attempts to go out with you. Heck, yell at the guy if you have to. But since rejection and rudeness can send a lot of guys into a psycho state, you may want to follow it up with something along the lines of, “Look, I really don’t want to have to be rude or yell at you, but you’re giving me no other choice with your nonstop invites.”

Ladies, we know it’s never easy to turn someone down; after all, you don’t want to hurt their feelings. Use these five tips to turn him down gently – or harshly – and watch how easy it gets for you.

If you’re single and looking for love in Dallas, contact our Fort Worth matchmakers and let us introduce you to quality single men in DFW who are fit to date and compatible with you.

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